It looked interesting and I thought I would give you a call.” Naturally, he did not get a date.
Like the Passover Seder, there’s an order to things, and it’s best to stick to it for positive results.
Each side is looking for the prearranged clue — a gold necklace, a forest green tie — that’ll identify their partner.
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The women who spoke of their experiences also preferred to be identified by their first names only.
One woman, Esti, went on over 50 shidduch dates before finding her now-husband.
Others — like Tali, who kept a special “shidduch date dress” — opt for color to show a bit more personality. Katz said it’s formal and clean, public enough that one is always around other people — as the modesty rules prescribe — yet private enough to hear each other.
Dark, muted tones are popular among the girls, often paired with a flash of color in the necklace or scarf.
Jenna Bazelon, 26, is the founder of Frum Girl Problems, a private Facebook group with over 9,500 members, all women. She recalled that one time, a potential date called her directly without any pre-vetting or involvement of an intermediary.
Confused, Bazelon asked if he was calling her as a reference for someone else. I was just looking through a stack of resumes and I saw yours.
In the Haredi community, food might not come into the equation until an engagement is around the corner.
Admittedly, that sometimes can be within weeks of the first date; there’s no exact formula.